Resilience Requires Us to Settle In, Have Discipline, and Sometimes Say No or Let’s Go!

Tuesday, March 22, 2016 - 8:57 am

Resilience Requires Us to Settle In, Have Discipline, and Sometimes Say No or Let’s Go!

You’re the first to hear it. We released a new podcast titled Becoming Wise. And… Krista will be on the road throughout April, speaking in the Twin Cities, Chicago, Austin, St. Louis, Tulsa, New York, Washington DC, Los Angeles, San Francisco, and Portland, Oregon! More information here about tickets and the podcast.

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“Some things just hurt.”

Working through discomfort doesn’t mean denying our suffering. Instead, Sharon Salzberg suggests a better way to move forward: allowing ourselves to feel pain without judgment, and accepting the validity of our own emotions.

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“Quitting something and developing new imaginations is not a skill we often give much credit. But I wonder if, at some point, letting ourselves shatter could be our bravest act.”

We often judge ourselves harshly for letting go of challenges, but quitting isn’t always a destructive reaction. Kimberly Brunelle George, a former gymnast, learns that stopping in place allows us to heal, and is sometimes exactly what we need to move forward.

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“Somehow I fake having my act together for the world. But at home, it’s a beautiful kind of mess every morning.”

The clock presses upon us and our families every day. Omid Safi’s experience is no different. He presents us with the gift of the pause — it’s not the roses we should stop to smell, but the most tender gestures written in the morning’s light.

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Much like Omid, Courtney Martin has children on her mind and the responsibilities that come with parenting. Her prompt? Paul Kalanithi’s latest book, When Breath Becomes Air. Courtney on the myth of meaning-making, reckoning with ambiguous endings, and the spectrum of imperfection in which we must all live and thrive:

“There is meaning in contemplating the fragility of life, but you can’t dwell here too long or you lose track of the opportunity to make meaning in the midst of all the fragility.”

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As it so happens, there’s more than one writer in the Martin family. Courtney’s brother Chris Martin submitted this guest post on the creative intellect of people with autism, and how personification “reveals their inclination toward warmhearted inclusivity.”

After a fire destroyed the Denver Catholic Worker House in January 2016, the author took these photographs of the interior of the building on the last day they were allowed to enter. (Kristen Brunelli / Kristen Brunelli © All Rights Reserved)

“We don’t try to see beyond our differences. We don’t have to practice hospitality. There is no struggle in seeing the good in Danielle. The walls have come down. She is family.”

I’m forever grateful for the many people who share their talents with us. Kristen Brunelli sent us this poignant essay and powerful photos of a Catholic Worker house in Denver destroyed by fire. We find home, she recognizes, in those with whom we journey through our toughest moments.

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“In the violent world in which we currently live (violence in our politics, in our speech, in ourselves), these affinities with the anti-liturgies of fascism have never been more apt.”

As Christians enter the final week of Lent, a reflection on the drama of the Easter story. Debra Dean Murphy, inspired by the poet Ariel Dorfman and Scottish composer James MacMillan, writes on this sacred encounter with the crucifixion as a reckoning with the violence of our era — and the hope and embrace contained within the resurrection.

Thank you for reading all the way through! If you’d ever like to give me feedback, I’d gladly welcome your advice. Email at, or via Twitter at @trentgilliss.

May the wind always be at your back.

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is the cofounder of On Being and currently serves as publisher & editor-in-chief. He received a Peabody Award in 2007 for his work on “The Ecstatic Faith of Rumi” and garnered two Webby Awards (in 2005, and again in 2008). The Online News Association nominated his journalistic work multiple times in the general excellence and outstanding specialty journalism categories. Trent’s reported and produced stories from Turkey to rural Alabama, from Israel and the West Bank to Cambridge, England.

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