The Questions We Dare Not Ask, and the Moments Before Birth

Tuesday, August 2, 2016 - 7:00 pm

The Questions We Dare Not Ask, and the Moments Before Birth

I’m writing from the rocky cliffs of Ballycastle in Northern Ireland, just minutes before Krista interviews Pádraig Ó Tuama (which we’ll be live streaming on our Facebook page). But there are a couple of articles I wanted to feature, including this marvelous response from Lori Lakin Hutcherson…

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Lori Lakin Hutcherson: What I Said When My White Friend Asked for My Black Opinion on White Privilege

So much of the recent news about the black community focuses on the pain and suffering and injustices in the world. And understandably so. But what about all the positive stories that aren’t being told?
Good Black News is one of those sources for sharing “the good things black people do, give, or receive all over the world.” Graciously, its founder allowed us permission to print this exchange in which she responds to questions from a white high school classmate with a kindness and a frankness that serves as an example of elevated discourse to which we all should aspire:

“I hope my experiences shed some light for you on how institutional and personal racism have affected the entire life of a friend of yours to whom you’ve only been respectful and kind. I hope what I’ve shared makes you realize it’s not just strangers but people you know and care for who have suffered and are suffering because we are excluded from the privilege you have to not be judged, questioned, or assaulted in any way because of your race.”

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Courtney Martin: The Liminal Space Before Giving Birth

Our dear friend and columnist has penned her last commentary for the summer as she prepares for the birth of her second child. Those days before delivery are sacred times, and thankfully for us, she pauses, reaching out and enveloping us in this rarefied space:

“You don’t think. You exist in a space and time without language. You, the consummate moderate, surrender to the extremes. You, the lover of words, realize there are none, really. You let your body take over. You trust it. You wait. Because you have no control, really.”

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May the wind always be at your back.

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is the cofounder of On Being and currently serves as publisher & editor-in-chief. He received a Peabody Award in 2007 for his work on “The Ecstatic Faith of Rumi” and garnered two Webby Awards (in 2005, and again in 2008). The Online News Association nominated his journalistic work multiple times in the general excellence and outstanding specialty journalism categories. Trent’s reported and produced stories from Turkey to rural Alabama, from Israel and the West Bank to Cambridge, England.

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