We Don’t Have Spaces to Feel Vulnerable and Imperfect

Monday, April 10, 2017 - 5:55 am

We Don’t Have Spaces to Feel Vulnerable and Imperfect

Can we be honest, imperfect, and vulnerable with one another? For those who are sick and tired of being afraid, this brilliant stop-motion film featuring a clip of Brené Brown in conversation with Krista Tippett might provide some needed insights about the human condition. The artist and auteur is Jennifer Ryan, who writes:

“I came across this conversation through the recommendation of a friend years ago, and Brene Brown’s stories and teachings have since helped me survive the hardest time of my life and made me feel much less alone. I have returned to them over and over and over again, always hearing something I hadn’t received before. She helped me realize that we are all carrying around shame, that we’re all seeking to connect but are afraid of how we’ll be perceived, that most of the negative interactions we have are a direct result of our collective fear, and also that it’s okay to be seen, that connecting with others will release your burden in a way you never imagined possible, and that you can somehow find the most comfort in uncomfortable conversations. Krista Tippett’s added wisdom only makes this conversation that much sweeter and I am grateful to have spent as much time as I have with these words.”

You can listen to the entire interview between Brené and Krista in our podcast. Just look for the episode, “The Courage To Be Vulnerable.”

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  • Virginia J. Pulver

    I know that I became much more authentic, lived larger and more openly after I experienced the loss of my 24 year old son and when I went through breast cancer. “What is essential is invisible to the eye.” as the Fox tells us in The Little Prince. These days, I lead with my vulnerability and am open in a way that draws people to me and helps them struggle with their own challenges and growth, anger, fear, and grieving. Thank you for this video. Once again the On Being crew has posted something wonderful for us all to share and elarn from. – Ginn, In Sunny SC

    • Rachel Roth

      I’m writing a book about grieving, authenticity, and shame and would love to know what else you’ve been influenced by in your healing journey…. I was widowed five years ago…

  • Gabby

    As someone who consistently puts her heart out there, and gladly, I must admit to those who choose to follow this path that showing who you are is not a guarantee that you will be loved or accepted for it. To me it is more about living authentically and wanting to do that rather than to be loved or accepted (or not) for a facade that is not me.
    Being vulnerable in relationship does not at all protect a person from loss or rejection. Sometimes it creates a deeper connection with ones trusted friend – but sometimes a turned back and heartbreak.

    • Rachel Lu

      that sounds pretty authentic to me! 👍❤️🙏

    • Dodi Gregory Huss

      So true.

  • CrummyVerses

    An opportunity to be – to Be & not Do! – on a week-long silent retreat. I’ve had mixed results with 3-day retreats. Fearful of facing myself…attempting little shots of courage here & there. I’m a guy/male so maybe it’s that much harder. Appreciate the comments, esp. Ginn in Sunny SC. I come from a small family and kin (and therefore me) don’t seem to matter as much, esp. with my background. Thanks for reading, sharing.

  • Ellen Heizman

    Thank you. My soon to be 30 year old son is moving to Chicago. I think he will fit right in.

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    • Rachel Roth

      I think these are important questions to explore, for both people who are religious, and who have studied their holy scriptures at length, and for those who are secular. How do we reconcile theology and philosophy when sometimes it seems paradoxical to our “real life” experiences?

  • Laura

    Being vulnerable with my ex-boyfriend in an attempt to improve our relationship kept me blind to the fact that he was an abusive narcissist. I ended up “being vulnerable” right into a life threatening situation, and a nervous breakdown. It took me years to recover. This whole idea only works with people who are capable of empathy, which is a shrinking percentage of the population. Tread carefully.

  • Jennifer Ryan

    Hi Trent, Jennifer Ryan here. Thank you so much for sharing my video with everyone, it made me so happy to see this on here!

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