Tag: relationships

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October 16, 2017

On coming together in that space with openness and trust, and creating something greater than the sum of our parts.

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October 12, 2017

From college dorms to cohousing communities, living with other people can be chaotic and messy. Our columnist considers that these tensions may actually be healthy and essential to building resilient community.

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August 31, 2017

Our daily lives are narratives we wrap ourselves in. But sometimes the grind keeps us from truly connecting with the world around us.

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June 8, 2017

In the shadow of tremendous loss, a message about the gifts we are to each other, the raw truth of who we are, and what really matters.

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May 20, 2017

Listeners challenge all of us to grow after listening to our interview with Glenn Beck. A writer contemplates her preoccupation with death after he mother’s passing. How men can live longer if they nurture deep friendships. And how humor helps us survive — a preview of the new season of our Creating Our Own Lives podcast.

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May 19, 2017

A lack of intimate friendships doesn’t just lead to loneliness; it can negatively impact your health, too. Courtney Martin on the particular importance of meaningful relationships between men — and how it can add a few years to men’s lives, to boot.

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April 21, 2017

There may not be one magic key to successful relationships. But it helps for us to share this goal: to have our partners’ back, no matter what chaos life throws our way.

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April 8, 2017

When a listener asks a question, a new conversation emerges. And other ideas on the harm of literalism in family life, the virtue of truth-telling, transforming anger, praise for an unappreciated generation; and others.

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March 31, 2017

What if we learned to trust in the resilience of our relationships, and recognized the occasional necessity of butting heads with the ones we love?

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March 23, 2017

When turbulence strikes, we must rise above to find a place of calm.

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March 4, 2017

Monotasking as a social skill? Discovering new truths in our winter years? Essential readings on new approaches to life with each other, and with our ever-evolving selves.

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February 25, 2017

A tribute to a beloved singer’s challenging life; escaping the rage cycle in this global moment; and our columnists on uprooting our assumptions about life’s most essential questions, from parenting to the nature of our relationships.

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February 13, 2017

The stories we tell about love and life are the root of dreams and frustration, alike. Sharon Salzberg on how “unstitching and reweaving” the narratives we hold can lead to a more generous understanding of our relationships, and ourselves.

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January 21, 2017

On finding love, teaching our children, and having gratitude for the simple things — words and music to help us seek out the best in ourselves and our neighbors.

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January 12, 2017

As we grow, the qualities we look for in our relationships change — and with them, the qualities we want to nurture in ourselves. Above all else, seek kindness.

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December 16, 2016

A brush with that fleeting, transcendent gratitude that only comes when we stand on the edge of losing what we treasure most.

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December 15, 2016

Witnessing the divorce of his friends, our columnist remembers the rituals of celebration. But, what would it be like to have similar rituals of support when things fall apart?

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October 29, 2016

There is beauty in what makes us human, but also in what reveals us as creatures. A woman shares her evolving perspective on the animal nature of family life, and the raw freedom she finds therein.

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October 18, 2016

Meaning and learning present themselves to us in unexpected ways. Commentaries on keeping ourselves open to surprising lenses on life, and to how they can enrich our relationships, our work, and our play.

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October 12, 2016

Compassion is a virtue, but do we direct it inward as much as outward? Parker Palmer gleans wisdom from Mary Oliver on mending ourselves so that we might be better companions to loved ones in need.

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October 4, 2016

The human experience is rife with messiness and frustration, especially in our relationships with others and with ourselves. Trent Gilliss shares thoughts on embracing the turmoil and finding ways to grow from it.

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October 3, 2016

To be part of any family is to bear witness to its joy, as well as its dysfunction. For Rosh Hashanah, Sharon Brous explores the intimate link between family healing and social responsibility at the heart of Jewish faith.

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September 30, 2016

Some emotional wounds need closure to heal, but there are times when the best way forward is to let go. Courtney Martin on mending our deepest relationships by embracing the paradox of love and imperfection.

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September 27, 2016

How can we be more present to daily joys? What does it look like to engage with each other in our fullest capacity? Questions and meditations on community and identity from voices on our radar.

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September 1, 2016

A powerful love is often quiet in its intensity. Alicia Partnoy reads her poem, a love note to love.

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June 23, 2016

Fueled by a Vietnamese Zen master’s question, Omid Safi waxes lyrical on the many ways we need to be loved and need to love others in a time of turmoil and uncertainty.

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February 27, 2016

“Why did you stay?” A brave woman recounts her own encounter with domestic abuse and unravels the complexity of human relationships — of love and loss, of violence and tenderness, of the vicious cycles we sometimes can’t extract ourselves from.

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February 26, 2016

A mentor-mentee relationship, like any good one, requires commitment, openness, and honesty. Courtney Martin gives counsel on building relationships of mutual joy and learning with those in our lives whom we admire.

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January 22, 2016

The most romantic relationships just may be our platonic friendships. But, as we age, it gets more difficult to establish new friendships with those of the same sex. Our columnist celebrates the inimitable joy of platonic courtship and female attachment.

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December 29, 2015

Unexpected relationships can lead to deep and lasting learning and growth.

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November 13, 2015

It’s important to feel gratitude for the small things in life: moments of calm, the love we experience and witness, the qualities that make us and our children unique — and well-designed book covers! A collection of writings on how we can more wisely approach the highs and lows of the daily journey.

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November 8, 2015

Whether to persevere or to surrender often determines the story of our lives. The question is knowing when to hang on and when to let go. A look at the common conundrum that results when life causes tension between two virtues.

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November 1, 2015

An affirmation of presence, a victory of joy, a connection maintained: these are the things a young mother observes in her elderly next door neighbors, as a husband gently tends to his wife in her final days. A beautiful account of what love truly looks like.

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October 5, 2015

When asked about love, people frequently use the word “need.” Sharon Salzberg analyzes this intermingling and why we should find a way to disentangle them to better understanding of real need, and real love.

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September 12, 2015

Rosh Hashanah, the beginning of the Jewish year, is an occasion of hope and renewal. On the eve of this holy holiday, a soul-searching reflection through the metaphor of writing letters — to others, to God, and to oneself.

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September 6, 2015

Fitness events and organizations are popping up and deepening community in powerful and unexpected ways, which many consider spiritual. A mother and Presbyterian minister tells the story of entering one of those muddy races and finding camaraderie in a manner she longs to experience in her own church.

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July 31, 2015

We acquire and we accumulate. But why? What is the story we’re trying to tell through the possessions we own. Our columnist Courtney Martin considers the multiple philosophies of ownership — and points toward that which is truly valuable.

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April 24, 2015

While eavesdropping, our columnist witnesses the intimacy of two strangers generously listening to one another — without an intent to save, fix, or advise. A lesson in witnessing over chicken wings.

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February 24, 2015

How is the way we live online changing the way we court, the way we love, the way we marry? Helen Fisher’s “Singles in America” study offers some curious insights into the trials and tribulations of modern love.

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February 20, 2015

Closure may not be all it’s cracked up to be. Courtney Martin on the death of a friendship and the insatiable, sometimes unsatisfying, need to create silver linings where none exist.

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December 22, 2014

Oftentimes it’s the hardships in life that are considered a test. But, perhaps, some of the deepest lessons of hardship are learned through all the good fortunes and blessings of our lives too.

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November 13, 2014

Following up on the disease of busyness, Omid explores what we lose when we let the overscheduled nature of our lives take precedence over the loved ones we treasure.

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October 8, 2014

The poet W.S. Merwin calls us to our mystical connections with the people in front and behind us.

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June 19, 2013

In this photo essay, Joy Ladin reflects on how gender is a covenant she has broken “with others and a covenant with myself.”