We’re Messed Up about Beauty

Wednesday, March 25, 2015 - 5:08 am

We’re Messed Up about Beauty

From Plato onward, it’s been said that a good life is one committed to three key values — truth, goodness, and beauty — not just as personal virtues but as guides to the common good.

Truth and goodness are hard values to hold in a culture laced with lies and “socially acceptable” forms of cruelty. People regularly get in trouble for telling truths that others don’t want to hear, or for “doing good” in ways that challenge us to be responsible for one another. Trying to live a good life doesn’t always make you popular!

But if our culture is messed up about truth and goodness, it’s really messed up about beauty. That’s why I treasure this poem, “Rembrandt’s Late Self-Portraits.” Here, beauty has nothing to do with the way it’s portrayed in fashion magazines. The poet celebrates the fact that Rembrandt found beauty in aging, physical diminishment, anguish, even in darkness and death. He did it animated by humility, unflinching self-knowledge, and love — “love of the art and others” — in a way that can “divest us of fear of death.”

This poem has been a faithful companion to my own aging over the past few years. Every time I read it, I get a new insight for my journey. Every time I read it, I think, “If we could see beauty as Rembrandt saw it — in that which the world rejects as ugly — we would find ourselves better able to live into the demands of truth and goodness.”

Rembrandt’s Late Self-Portraits
by Elizabeth Jennings

You are confronted with yourself. Each year
The pouches fill, the skin is uglier.
You give it all unflinchingly. You stare
Into yourself, beyond. Your brush’s care
Runs with self-knowledge. Here

Is a humility at one with craft.
There is no arrogance. Pride is apart
From this self-scrutiny. You make light drift
The way you want. Your face is bruised and hurt
But there is still love left.

Love of the art and others. To the last
Experiment went on. You stared beyond
Your age, the times. You also plucked the past
And tempered it. Self-portraits understand,
And old age can divest,

With truthful changes, us of fear of death.
Look, a new anguish. There, the bloated nose,
The sadness and the joy. To paint’s to breathe,
And all the darknesses are dared. You chose
What each must reckon with.

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is a columnist for On Being. His column appears every Wednesday.

He is a Quaker elder, educator, activist, and founder of the Center for Courage & Renewal. His books include A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided Life, and Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation. His book On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity, and Getting Old will be published in June.

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